The Conversation – How Men and Women Can Build Loving, Trusting Relationships
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Watch a Video Watch a video In his first book for adults, the “New York Times” bestselling author sparks honest dialogues between men and women, in the tradition of Steve Harvey’s “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.” Only 34 percent of African-American children today are raised in two- parent households, a sharp contrast to 1966, when 85 percent of black children were raised by two parents. In provocative but heartfelt words, Hill Harper takes on these urgent challenges, bringing a variety of issues out of the shadows.
In “The Conversation,” Harper speaks to women and men with clear-eyed perspective, covering topics such as: -The roots of the breakdown in the black family -The myth that there are no mature, single, black male professionals -What women can do to alleviate the “heaviness” they sometimes attach to dating -What men can do to break the cycle of being a player -The difference between sex and intimacy -Bridging the communication gap -Self-worth and net worth, and why you should never settle for an unworthy partner Capturing the conversations Harper and his friends frequently have, this book is destined to be one of Harper’s most healing contributions.
Author(s): Hill Harper
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After hitting a brick wall in both his business and personal life in 2006, Pepe Marais discovered his purpose on which he rebuilt all aspects of his life over the course of the next fourteen years. The results of his purposeful approach to life have been nothing short of spectacular and in this, his second book, Pepe once again sets out to deliver on his personal purpose: to bring out the best in those around him.
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